UNTUK beberapa dekade, peneliti psikologi dan peneliti lain mengasumsikan ikatan ibu-anak adalah hal yang paling penting dalam dunia anak-anak. Peneliti memfokuskan dalam studi tentang hubungan, dan bagaimana seorang anak menyalahkan ibunya.
Namun dalam dekade terakhir, ilmuan mengembangkan studi tentang seberapa besar peran ayah. Seperti pere…mpuan, tubuh seorang ayah bertanggung jawab terhadap kebapakannya, dan gaya orang tua yang memberi pengaruh kepada anaknya.
“Sekarang kami menemukan bukan hanya pengaruh ayah, tapi kadang ayah lebih memengaruhi perkembangan anaknya daripada ibunya,” kata Ronald Rohner, Directur Center for the Study of Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection di the University of Connecticut.
Rohner bersama koleganya telah mengkaji kembali tentang studi orang tua yang diterima dan ditolak di seluruh dunia dalam beberapa dekade. Hasilnya, tak mengejutkan. Orang tua punya peran lebih terhadap anaknya. Ketika seorang anak kurang dicintai atau mendapat penolakan dari orang tuanya, anak itu akan memiliki sifat bermusuhan, agresif, dan emosi tak stabil. Penolakan orang tua juga dapat menyebabkan rendah diri, perasaan tidak mampu dan pandangan dunia negatif.
“Ini benar terjadi dan harus dipikirkan kedua orang tua,” kata Rohner.
Untuk sebagian kasus, kata Rohner, ayah menjadi faktor yang lebih penting daripada Ibu. “Masalah perilaku, kenakalan, depresi, penyalahgunaan zat, dan penyesuaian psikologis, secara keseluruhan semua lebih erat dengan penolakan ayah daripada ibu,” kata Rohner.
Di sisi lain, peneliti menemukan kasih sayang ayah kadang memberi pengaruh yang lebih kuat untuk anak daripada ibu.
“Mengetahui anak-anak yang dicintai ayahnya adalah prediktor yang lebih bagus dari akal orang dewasa yang mencari kesejahteraan, kebahagiaan, kepuasan hidup, daripada mengetahui tentang sejauh mana mereka merasa dicintai ibunya,” kata Rohner.
Temuan tersebut dirinci Rohner dalam journal Personality and Social Psychology Review edisi Mei 2012
Apparently, the Father’s role more influential than the mother for several decades, researchers in psychology and other researchers assume the mother-child bond is the most important thing in the world of children. Investigators focused in the study of relationships, and how a child blaming his mother.
But in the last decade, scientists developed a study about how big a role the father. Like the women, the body of a father is responsible for the kebapakannya, and the parents who give influence to his son.
“Now we find not only the influence of fathers, but sometimes more influenced the development of his father than his mother,” said Ronald Rohner, Managing Director of the Center for the Study of Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection at the University of Connecticut.
Rohner has been reviewed again, along with his colleague about studying parents who accepted and rejected in the entire world in a few decades. As a result, it’s no surprise. Parents have a role more toward his son. When a child is less loved or got rejection from his parents, the child shall have the nature of hostile, aggressive, and emotions are unstable. The refusal of the parents can also cause low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy and negative world view.
“This really happened and should the parents think,” said Rohner.
For most cases, said Rohner, the father becomes a factor more important than the mother. “Behavior problems, delinquency, depression, substance abuse, and psychological adjustment, overall all more tightly with the refusal of the father rather than the mother,” said Rohner.
On the other hand, the researchers found affection dad sometimes gives a more powerful influence to the child than the mother.
“Knowing the kids who loved his father was better predictor of reasonable adults who seek welfare, happiness, life satisfaction, than knowing about the extent to which they felt loved his mother,” said Rohner.
The findings outlined in the journal Rohner Personality and Social Psychology Review issue of may 2012 (Translated by Bing)
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